Happy Friday! Casey Wyatt here.
I must admit – fear of writing love scenes nearly derailed my writing career. Don’t get me wrong, I love a smokin’ hot sexual encounter. Just having to actually write one for the first time was, well. . . embarrassing. So embarrassing that I’d break out in cold sweat and stop writing.
I like to read steamy sex scenes between two characters who are in love. In fact, my favorite authors – J.R. Ward, Sherrilyn Kenyon and Jeaniene Frost (hello, Chapter 22 – fans of her books know exactly what I’m talking about here.) all write the kind of sex scenes I enjoy, er, like. See, there’s that embarrassment again. But seriously, I don’t care for sex scenes with no emotional content or point either (Laurell K. Hamilton – what happened to you???).
Again, dreaming up love scenes, while fun in your head, isn’t the same as typing the words on a page.
In black and white.
For everyone to read.
It didn’t help that my two, smart-alek teenage boys would sneak up behind me and accuse me of “writing an erotic sex book.” Fortunately for me, I was never at those bits when the commando raids would take place. They have since given up trying to read over my shoulder. Whew!
And my embarrassment, didn’t stop there. Once I took the plunge and wrote the darn pages, I then realized that others would – gasp – read them. People like my friends!! Possibly my mother!! What would they think of me? What if they were crap? Would they laugh at me?
Luckily, those things didn’t happen. In fact, in a few cases, I received the opposite response, like – hand fanning face- that they were of the cold shower variety. High praise indeed!
And I needn’t have worried about my critique partners. Professional as ever, they provided feedback for those scenes just like any other. Sometimes with humorous results – “I don’t think you really meant to say – he ran his fingers up her nose”. After I finished laughing at myself, I fixed the scene so it didn’t sound like a fourth grader’s rendition of the hero going on a booger dive (thank you PJ for catching that one!).
So now that I have licked (no pun intended) my fear of the steamy sex scene, the new challenge is coming up with creative new ways and places to do the deed.
Without being too graphic (this is a G-rated site!) what have been some of your hang-ups when it comes to reading or writing love scenes? And what spice level suits you best?